Workbook · PDF · 6x9 Layout
Become Who You Are Journal
A guided journal for leaders—especially Black leaders—who are carrying identity, family history, and system pressure into every room they walk into, and are ready to name it instead of numbing it.
$29
Instant digital download (print-ready 6x9 PDF). Use on its own or alongside your coaching, therapy, or spiritual practice.
Why this journal exists
Most leadership tools talk about strategy, skills, and “executive presence.” Very few talk honestly about how race, class, family story, and survival strategies show up in your leadership every single day.
Become Who You Are is a journal for leaders who feel that gap. It’s shaped by the same themes behind White Kryptonite and Bigger Than the Program: what happens when you’ve learned to shrink, code-switch, or overperform to survive systems that weren’t built with you in mind.
This isn’t about blaming systems or glorifying grind. It’s about telling the truth about how you became who you are—and choosing, on purpose, who you’re becoming next.
What’s inside the journal
Designed as a 6x9, print-ready workbook, the journal is divided into four movements. Each section blends short framing, memoir-informed prompts, and structured pages for reflection.
1. Before the Room: Who You Learned to Be
Explore the early messages you absorbed about worth, safety, and belonging. Prompts help you trace how family, neighborhood, race, and religion taught you:
- What “success” looks like—and who it’s for
- When to speak up and when to stay quiet
- How to carry other people’s expectations
2. In the Room: How You Move at Work
Look at your actual behavior in meetings, crises, and hallway conversations. Reflect on:
- Where you over-function, over-explain, or over-apologize
- Places you “armor up” or disappear to stay safe
- How you carry both your team and your community’s hopes
3. Naming the Cost: What This Has Taken from You
Honest prompts to surface the emotional, physical, and relational cost of always performing, translating, or proving you belong.
- Where resentment, numbness, or exhaustion are showing up
- Moments you felt yourself disappear to fit in
- The gap between the life you have and the one you’d choose
4. Becoming: What You Want to Carry Forward
Space to name who you’re becoming on purpose—not just as an employee or executive, but as a whole person.
- Values and practices you refuse to abandon
- Boundaries you’re ready to test and protect
- “Future-self” letters and commitments you can revisit
How to use this journal
- Pick a rhythm. One section per week, one prompt per day, or a deep-dive weekend—whatever your life can hold.
- Use a real pen. This is meant to live on paper. Print the 6x9 PDF or use it on a tablet with a stylus.
- Don’t edit while you write. The journal is for your words as they are—not the version you’d say in a meeting.
- Pair it with support. Bring insights to a therapist, coach, spiritual director, or trusted friend.
- Revisit the “Becoming” pages. Come back to your commitments and add notes as life shifts.
Want space to unpack this with someone?
The journal is a starting point. If you’d like a structured, confidential space to process identity, leadership, and culture together, we can build that into a coaching or consulting engagement.